ADHD and Ritalin?
Father Absent Homes?
I was stunned to read the other day about the research of Dr. Warren Farrell, co-author of the book “Boy Crisis”. I watched a video interview with Dr. Farrell on Facebook and investigated further.
We all know or should know, that children raised by single parents have poorer Outcomes in life, but to what extent has been exposed by the work of Dr. Farrell. I won’t repeat what he says, I would rather you watch the video yourself, I will just add my thoughts on the topic.
The National Rifle Association believe the common denominator in School Shootings is Ritalin and Psychotropic Drugs, they are not wrong, but Dr. Farrell looks far deeper into it and finds the reason that the shooters are on Ritalin to begin with, Father Absent Homes.
I have been attacked in the past by radical feminists and I’m happy that Dr. Farrell has vindicated me and others who have been unjustly attacked. I supported Feminism and Women’s Rights for many years, but in the 1980’s I saw the emergence of Radical Feminism. I believe we have surpassed Women’s Rights and now it’s time to even out the playing field and start concentrating on boys, who will, of course, grow into men. Just as “Affirmative Action” was necessary at the start to allow African Americans to compete in universities and the workplace, it went far too far in discriminating against Whites. The result of this experiment is that people who were not qualified entered universities and workplaces and couldn’t cope with their new “Equality”. This was the wrong approach. The over-compensation for Black and Hispanic adults was misguided in hindsight. They should have been concentrating on Black Children instead to help them qualify to compete on a level playing field. You cant have Equality without first having Equity.
History should be teaching us that “Affirmative Action” is the wrong approach. By the time a damaged child reaches adulthood, it becomes far more difficult to fix the person. The same story with Women’s Rights, we have gone overboard at this point. If there are fewer women in politics, it is probably because women don’t want the job. Gender Quotas are wrong, employers hire based on ability and performance. We are now seeing a situation where women graduates are outnumbering men in professions previously dominated by men. If we want Equality, why should a man need a higher Grade Point Average than a woman for college admission? This is not Equality or Equity. To compound these issues we also have to deal with Political Correctness and a generation who grew up being they were told by their parents that they were “Special” and didn’t need to compete. We have mothers calling their sons manager and complaining. We have new terms like Toxic Masculinity but thanks to Dr. Farrell, we can now see the problem all along was Lack of Masculinity, as in Father-Absent Homes. A boy raised by a “Single” Mother goes to school and there is an 80% chance his teacher will also be female, who is going to teach this boy to be a man? I say “Single” Mother because I believe that they do not exist, it took a male and female to produce that child and that child has a right to both parents. No, you are not a “Single Mother”, you are a “Single Woman” because your child also has a father.
In the past, women had it tough, no doubt about that, but now the pendulum has swung too far the other way. The Suicide Rate of Men to Women should inform us of this, 4 out of 5 suicides in Ireland are Men. All the evidence points to the fact that men have it tougher these days than women. The fact is that for years now the pendulum has swung against men, in a divorce or separation, men are far more likely to lose their children. The losers in this are the Children, the evidence is clear from Dr. Farrell’s work, and the work of many others. It’s time to adjust the pendulum, but not in the way that has previously failed like “Affirmative Action”.
Listening to Dr. Farrell on the interview, I feel he may be missing part of the equation. I have said for years that fathers should not say; “I can’t see my children”, they should instead say; “My child’s Human Rights to have access to both parents is being denied”. It’s the same argument, but in the latter, you are reporting a case of Child Abuse. The other missing equation is the fact that Sociology has caused these crises by devaluing the Family, and especially professing that fathers are superfluous to the process of raising a child. I wrote in the book that Sociology believes that;
“Family is an outdated concept with its vestiges in our tribal roots.”
I also wrote that an Irish politician once stated that children do not have an automatic right to a parent. For children born outside of marriage, only the mother has automatic rights to guardianship. (Even though a father’s name may be registered on the child’s birth certificate, this does not give him any guardianship rights in respect of his child).
Let me be clear. A child needs both parents. There are certain things that girls or boys can only learn from their mothers and not their father, or vice-versa. But we know this as Human Beings, you don’t need a degree in Psychology or Sociology to know that children do better with both a mother and father, your instinct should tell you this. Some of you might say; “what about same-sex parents”? There isn’t sufficient evidence to state that children raised by same-sex parents do better or worse, primarily because there are not enough cases of children raised by same-sex parents to arrive at a scientific conclusion one way or the other. Data is only now becoming available but it doesn’t look good for children raised by same-sex parents. What is very clear is that children raised by both parents do better in terms of Outcomes and several other indicators.
We are paying a huge premium as a society for children abused by courts, judges, lawyers, mothers, fathers and especially social workers. To deny a child the right to a parent is child abuse, but unfortunately not illegal in many places. I hope Dr. Farrell gets behind the Parental Alienation movement and I hope he continues his excellent work.