An article I wrote for a newspaper in India about how Indian Citizens should avoid adopting the Western ideology of “Protecting” Children.
An article I wrote for a newspaper in India about how Indian Citizens should avoid adopting the Western ideology of “Protecting” Children.
Should a blind or deaf woman be allowed to keep her baby from birth? How about a woman with a low IQ? Cerebral Palsy? Religious Fundamentalist? Opposed to vaccines? Homeless? A 16 year old mother?
I’m sure some of you will be horrified that I am asking the question, but these are questions which social workers asked of judges. Not only have parents lost their children to foster “Care” for these reasons, many have also lost their children to Forced Adoption for even sillier reasons.
We often see the question; “Why not license the right to a child, we do it for dogs?” Are we really that far away from the State issuing licenses to get pregnant or to raise a child? Let’s not forget that China has already done this in an effort to reduce its population. The result was a whole generation of males and female babies killed or put up for adoption. What will happen when these boys grow up and want to start a family?
Eugenics has never worked. Although many think about the Lebensborn Program of Nazi Germany, Eugenics actually started in the USA with the concept that poverty or undesirable traits could be “bred out” of society by preventing poor people from having children. Sociology is the new form of Eugenics. The theory is that social “Scientists”, have the ability to be able to control society. The reality is that Sociology has no history of excellence, there is no evidence of any social experiment having worked to the benefit of society, none, ever. Sociology is not “scientific” by any means or standard. The country of Japan dropped Sociology from its university curriculum, and bear in mind that Japan has the lowest crime rate of any country.
Many are starting to realise that the only value of Sociology is in advocacy. In Child “Protection”, the theory is that social workers intervene as Advocates, but have the weapon of Prosecutor of families if necessary. The reality is that there is no advocacy, social workers jump by default to take all children away. The false dogma of “damned if we do, damned if we don’t” eliminates any need to keep families together. Nobody gets damned for doing their job competently or acting within the law. The false narrative of social workers being persecuted for their successes is wearing thin. By playing the victim card, social workers draw people to their side, its an age-old strategy. They cite the Baby P case as evidence that social workers are persecuted, but seem to forget that it was their incompetence and inability to determine the correct intervention, that led to the death of Baby Peter. There were 60 visits to Baby Peters home by “Professionals”, 18 by social workers alone. To me this is proof-positive that social workers wouldn’t recognise child abuse and neglect if they sat in the livingroom 18 times and watched it happen, but didn’t see the threshold being met.
We should never accept the victim narrative at face value and flock to their side without first examining the evidence. Human Nature by default makes us take the side of the victim, but many times we are proven wrong on examination of the evidence. I have repeatedly stated that we need to take a Scientific Approach, especially to the Investigative Process. There is nothing scientific in the approach taken by social workers in Child Protection matters. In fact social workers don’t even do investigations, they do “Assessments”. By using flawed guidelines, we are asking social workers to do a job that nobody will ever be capable of. When you bear in mind that the vast majority of children are “care” on the basis of nothing more than future “risk”, you would have to agree with UK politician John Hemming, that; “this is the Thought Police” approach to protecting children.
Rather than removing babies at birth on future risk, why not help the parent or parents to raise their child? 50 years ago it would be unthinkable to remove the child of a disabled person, but now that the narrative that you can remove a child from “A” and give that child to “B” without consequences for the child, a false narrative, has taken over, many disabled people will lose their child. Worse yet, many children of disabled or less-abled parents will lose their parents. We need to stop thinking that children will survive “Care” or Adoption. The evidence is clear, children do better with parents and the State is the worst parent imaginable.
Then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. Gandhi
Over the years I have written many letters and emails to politicians, MPs, Senators, Congressmen, Legislators and Ministers. Many people say this is a waste of time, sometimes you get a reply and its rare that your efforts will get any result. I say do it anyway, there is a method to my madness.
If you carefully use the system to your advantage, you can put these people on notice of a problem or impending problem. Usually when a problem is exposed, the people who should have known better and prevented it, will be the first to plead ignorance and pretend they knew nothing. When the story emerges they will plead they knew nothing, but you have proof that they did know because you had informed them.
They will ignore you, but at their own peril. If they choose to ridicule you or fight you, at least your side of the story is coming out. In Ireland, it is virtually impossible to get accurate information and statistics. The secrecy with which the system operates allows the system to hide behind the law. In Ireland when a group of people protested the deaths of children in State “Care”, the Minister for Children asked the Child and Family Agency for a report on the deaths. The Minister was told this was none of his business, which technically was true. The Minister is not entitled to know about any case before the courts. This is still true today, so you have a situation where the top person in charge is oblivious of what the people in her department are doing. There is no “Leadership” at the upper levels because the system and the law intended to protect the children involved also prevents any scrutiny and exposure of wrongdoing.
I advise people to complain to CPS. Many will say this is pointless because CPS will investigate CPS. I helped make a complaint against a manager and the person who investigated was the manager himself. Essentially the manager investigated investigated himself and found himself innocent of any wrongdoing. Later in court, the judge was handed the complaint and the findings by the manager. The fact the complainant followed the process completely turned the case around. The judge saw through the deception and could see that CPS were putting their own interest before the interests of the child. The system is a; “Self Protecting Ecosystem”.
One thing that has come up a lot lately is children showing up to “Contact” with obvious injuries. When the parent asks how the injuries occurred, they are told not to ask and not to pursue the matter as they are emotionally abusing the child and causing them emotional distress. Let me be very clear. If your child shows up with injuries, you must immediately call the Police to investigate. Under the laws of Ireland the Gardai (Irish Police), have the right to remove any child from anywhere if they reasonably believe the child to be in danger. The only caveat is that the danger to the child must be established. This is covered under Section 12 of the Childcare Act. Most countries have similar legislation. In any case, if there is evidence of abuse, regardless of the perpetrator, Police must investigate.
I know many parents who’s children died in State “Care”. All of them would advise you to call the Police if your child shows up with any evidence of injury. I know of cases where children died of neglect because their “Carers” didn’t act responsibly. I know of very few cases where these “Carers” were held accountable, mostly because of the secrecy involved.
Use every opportunity available to you. You have to play their game, on their turf by their rules but you can still beat them with their own incompetence. Make every report to every State Body and make sure you do it within the allowed time-frame, usually a year in most cases with few exceptions. Occasionally, someone will listen and champion your cause. When this happens, you will win your case because they fought you and lost.
If CPS and “Care” is ever to be reformed, it will only be because people fought for accountability.
Can you imagine sentencing a man to death on the basis of;
Actually I know of a case where a man is on death row for a “crime” which Science has proven quite impossible and has offered a very plausible explanation which is supported by science. At the present time a judge is deciding if he deserves a new trial, despite all the controversy surrounding his case. His case is here at this link.
In normal circumstances, if you don’t have corrupt prosecutors and inept scientists, these cases would rarely happen given the scrutiny in a Criminal Court, but let’s be honest, they do happen, a lot. When you are up against the State, you might be up against 60 people working to prove you guilty and may only have a Public Defender on your side. A lawyer with little time and little resources, but occasionally they succeed. Justice is supposed to be predicated on the belief that 10 men should go free before 1 innocent man is convicted. Obviously that doesn’t happen.
Compare all this with Family Court.
I am reading an appeal at this minute which social services have based their case on nothing more than “in the absence of another explanation”. I have seen many of these cases before. In all the cases I have seen, Police investigated and no crime or evidence sufficient to prosecute, and still, the parents were punished with the removal of their children. Under the Human Rights Act, it states; “There shall be no Punishment without crime”, a colleague of mine Ian Josephs has been pointing this out since the 1960’s since he first took an interest in the topic of Child “Protection”.
Parents should be alarmed that on the whim of someone working for government, that you could lose your child forever. People could arrive at your home tomorrow and dictate to you how you should live and raise your child. Of course every case of child abuse or neglect must be investigated, but social workers are not trained in investigation and in fact don’t even do investigations, they do “Assessments”. If an inept or corrupt social worker has decided you will lose your child, there is little you can do to prevent it. The normal rules of Justice and Law don’t apply.
This is not to say that CPS cannot be beaten, my colleagues have done it many times, unfortunately we cant discuss any case, but we can educate you.
I wrote a chapter in the book entitled “How’s that working for you Phil?” in which I mentioned TV Psychologist Dr Phil McGraw. Phil said he would rather see 1,000 children taken if it saves one child. This is the prevailing belief with Child “Protection”, not just Phils opinion. I mean no disrespect Phil, but taking 1,000 children is Child Abuse, however I don’t doubt your sincerity. Abusing 999 children and subjecting them to a horrendous experience will no doubt cause many of them to suffer PTSD. Many of these children will never return home even though their parents have done no wrong. The child and the parents will be left brutalized by their experience. Those children who don’t return home will be dumped on the street on their 18th birthday. Taking 1,000 children to find the 1 abused child also makes the system 999 times more expensive than it needs to be.
In the absence of another explanation Phil, how’s that workin for ya?
In Sweden, where Family Courts are not secret, where parents are not gagged, a Social Worker wrote an excellent paper on the topic of how parents are persecuted by social workers. When it was written, it was widely circulated by victims of Child Protective Services (CPS), but didn’t create many shock waves in the Social “Care” Industry itself. The 106 page report can be read or downloaded here by clicking this link.
In my own experience and that of my colleagues, I see an insane pattern in cases that repeats and repeats;
A colleague of mine has just written a book for parents which is basically a “How to get your children back manual”. It will be very interesting reading given some of the cases he and his partner have been involved in. I hope Darren will write a guest blog for us and when the book comes out we will help promote it.
Most people believe that Child Protection is working, this is the public perception. It is only when social workers show up at your door that most people will realize that everything they previously believed about Law and Justice no longer applies. When they arrive, you realize you are way out of your depth and your previously held belief that you were living in a reasonably free and democratic society has dissipated in the space of a few minutes. Make no mistake, you are in an “Alternate Universe” and you are in for the fight of your life. Most people who fall afoul of the system are left damaged, broke and broken by the process.
To understand what you are up against would take many months of study just to get your head around this. This is why I wrote the Secret Courts book, so that people who are unaware of how the system operates know most of their rights and obligations and how to deal with these cases. I hope Darrens book is widely read so people are prepared before-hand. To read the article I shared above would take hours to understand. I’m told that my book takes days to read.
I didn’t write the book to “preach to the converted”, victims of CPS have a very good handle on their situation, but most if not all will tell you they wish they knew what they were up against beforehand. My book and others on the topic are not “romance novels”, they are not easy reading and many will avoid frightening themselves. The people who really need to read this type of book is legislators, judges and lawyers. I have made it clear in the book that above all, I would hold judges, especially in the lower courts, responsible for their actions which harm children. If you don’t want to read the book, please donate it to a library or give it to a judge. Change begins with Understanding, fore-warned is fore-armed.
I have always been fascinated with the concept that two psychologists could examine the same patient and have diametrically opposed views on the same patient, especially in court. One will appear for the prosecution and one for the defense. What fascinates me about it, is that working as a Mechanic/Technician/Engineer, when you are called in to solve a problem, there may be many schools of thought at the beginning of the process of Problem Solving, everyone is in agreement by the time the machine or tool is up and running.
Of course, machines even as complex as “Rocket Science” machines, are nowhere near as complex as Human Beings. But still, I have seen time and time again how Physicians and Psychologists can have bitter disagreements, whereas Engineers, Mathematicians and Statisticians will come to a consensus given the opportunity to work it out between then. This is especially true when they are given the opportunity to solve a problem which relies on quantifiable and repeatable experiments. However, if left to work as separate groups, they will both likely fail.
A trend we have seen in the last decade, is where even Scientists disagree. Look at the Global Warming, sorry, Climate Change debate, and people will tell you on either side that there is no debate, both sides will claim “Settled Science”. If you disagree you are a “Skeptic”, a “Denier” or a downright Conspiracy Theorist. Lately we have seen people of strong Faith on the Climate Change issue for “Deniers” to be jailed. Personally I wouldn’t want to live in a world where you could be jailed for beliefs. I would defend the right of anyone to believe anything they want with one caveat, that they are not harming anyone.
One lesson that could be gleaned from this is don’t hire a Climate Change Scientist to repair your Washing Machine, Ion Implanter, Vehicle or Hadron Collider. You could end up in jail if you disagree with their opinion, and they’ll probably not be able to repair it. What we are witnessing is the demise of Science. Galileo was a renowned Conspiracy Theorist. He insisted that the Earth could not be flat. When he spoke out he was branded a heretic by the Church, who at the time were the ultimate authority on everything including Science. If the Church had not existed, Galileo would still be branded a “Denier” by other scientists at the time. This is not a pattern repeating itself, up to this point in history, everyone believed the Earth to be flat and nobody had any reason, except Galileo, to believe otherwise. We know now that we cant go back to the day when Scientific Theory was dictated by Religion. And yet this is where Science is headed, if you go against the dogma you are a “Heretic”. So why are people in complete disagreement even though they have examined the same evidence?
We can go a little further into the issue by looking at the fact that one group “believe” that God created the Earth and that we all descended from Adam and Eve 6,000 years ago. Even when you point out scientific fact to some people, for example, the issue that every human on Earth came from Eve, who had 3 sons, and yet there are Asians, Caucasians and Africans? There many other issues with this belief, you will find their faith in their belief is unshakable. Again, I have to say I have no issue with people believing anything they want, as long as nobody is harmed. Religion is a good thing for society in general, but if your Deity tells you to kill others, then you need to find a new Deity.
In Science, everything is a theory. The theory relies on constant questions and debate, even attack. In the Peer Review process the scientist puts the theory out there for all to see. In science, there are no stupid questions, anyone is allowed to ask a question without being labelled a Conspiracy Theorist. Sure, there will be idiotic questions and actual conspiracy theorists making connections that don’t exist. But, when they post their theory and allow peer review, their theory is either bolstered or dismissed. Usually the people who will resort to ad hominen attacks are the conspiracy theorists.
What I have come to realise is that many people act on their feelings rather than thinking out the problem or even thinking before speaking. Over a decade ago a Psychologist pointed out that if we raise children to believe they are equal or superior to others, if we don’t teach children that there are consequences to their actions, if we fight their battles for them and tell them they are special, that we are likely to see a “Spoiled Generation”. His prophetic message has come to pass.
Dr Aric Sigman, although he will probably never be credited for it, predicted the current generation we see, particularly in universities, who become offended at the least little thing, even if they are not the victim. The rise of “Safe Spaces”, Political Correctness, support for failed ideologies such as Marxism, Stalinists, Socialism, and people who generally don’t fit well in society, should be more than apparent. We have mothers calling employers about their children, just as they bullied the child’s school teacher. We have a generation who feel “entitled” to everything without having to compete. We have many, but not all young people, who were constantly told they were special, but are extremely disillusioned that others are surpassing them in every aspect of life. Some are very angry with their parents, who didn’t prepare them for real life.
We are now seeing these people in positions of power and making decisions for you and me. It’s a scary thought, but a young social worker may arrive on your doorstep and have the power to make life-altering decisions for you and your family. With Political Correctness and equal rights and other changes we have made over the years, this young woman (in 85% of cases), came from a university and was taught Socialism or Marxism from professors who have little connection with the “Real World” most of us live in. If they had to survive outside their ivory towers, most would struggle, they have no proven ability in many cases, except as an “Academics”. She had a diploma and the necessary qualifications, so it doesn’t matter she has no children of her own, or no real life-experience, she was given the job because she had the necessary qualifications. And she’s going to make decisions for and about your children.
To compound the problem with this Social Worker, she is trained in a discipline which is not scientific and has no proven history of excellence. I am a big fan of Science and applying scientific principles to every endeavor in life. For me there must be measurable and demonstrable benefit in everything. To apply this standard of quality in courts, we would never see two Psychologists having diametrically opposed opinions on the same patient. The solution to this in courts is simple, only allow Forensic Psychologists to testify. A Clinical Psychologist at best can only offer an opinion, where a Forensic Psychologists give the patient a barrage of tests in which they are compared to the general population. Of course there will be the “Whores of Court” that sell their soul to the highest bidder, usually the government, and will repeat any lie you want for enough money. Psychologist Margaret Hagen wrote a book entitled “Whores of Court” which until recently, was free to download from her website. Another study by Dr Jane Ireland also looked at the use of experts in Family Court in the UK and found that 70% were not qualified.
I have to wonder sometimes how far we have advanced as a civilization when so many field of endeavor are actually going backwards. We have of course advanced, people are living longer these days and many diseases are curable or treatable because of advances we have made, mostly by scientific means. While there have been a few positive strides in Psychology, and a few retrograde, Psychologists cannot claim to have “cured” a single patient, ever. This is not to say that Psychology has no value, a skilled therapist can save lives just as sure as an Emergency Physician or Surgeon. Psychology and Psychiatry have gone retrograde with many Psychologist and Psychiatrists criticizing their own profession and the turns it has taken recently. For example; every Human Emotion is now listed as a “Disorder”. Many have rejected the DSM latest edition.
The problem I see with Psychology and Psychiatry, is that they have never embraced Science. Both being part of Medicine, which in itself is not scientific, have relied too heavily on theorists rather than science. For most Psychologists, you are either Freudian or Jungian and subscribe to one school of thought over the other. Science exists independent of the scientist. Science doesn’t care what you or Sigmund Freud or Carl Jung thinks, it just exists. Every scientific theory must remain a theory and be challenged on a regular basis if we are to advance as humans. The experiment that water boils at 100*C at Atmospheric Pressure may one day be dis-proven, this is as it should be. Perhaps one day a scientist will change our understanding of the process and this will lead to new advancements.
These days “Consensus” means something different from what it once meant. If you don’t “believe” in Global Warming, you are not part of the consensus and must be ridiculed and your reputation burned at the proverbial stake, this is not how Science works. No “Denial” is acceptable, no questions are possible with this new Religion of Science.
They say that you should never bring up a problem without suggesting a solution. I honestly don’t have any solutions. I have struggled for years to understand this, and while I have filled in a few blanks, I am still a long way off. Perhaps if schools taught children from a young age how the scientific process works, people would be a bit more “Scientific” in their thinking? One thing I learned is that many people go through life without thinking, hardly at all. The ones who excel in school and college are those who can assimilate information and repeat it, often without really understanding what they are talking about. People who drive cars on “Autopilot” are more likely to have a collision because they are not “Driving Defensively”, and not thinking.
I took a third-level Psychology course in Teaching & Learning, at the time I worked as an instructor. The tutor told me to read chapters 1, 3, 5, 7 and skip 2, 4, 6, 8. I was so captivated by the subject of Psychology that I read everything, and have continued for years. One fascinating thing I learned was a topic called “Over-Learning”. This is where you have done something so many times that you don’t need to think about it, eating, drinking or driving are some examples. The part of your brain that processes these tasks operates very much like a computer. When I studied this, I learned to play guitar in a week. I had struggled for years with guitars and instructors and couldn’t play a note, when I learned “How” to learn a repetitive skill I could I learn so much faster. I have since taught hundreds of people to play, absolute beginners, and all could play a complete song from start to finish in less than an hour.
If a guitarist or any musician wanted to play a complex piece and had to make their fingers respond to what their brain is thinking, their fingers couldn’t respond rapidly enough. You must over-learn each piece and there are a few tricks to know, most importantly, when you make a mistake, stop and go back to the beginning, otherwise you have programmed the wrong thing into you brain’s “Computer”. Ever notice how you make the same mistake over and over in the same place every time? It is also necessary to program your left hand separately from your right hand, and then put the two together. Musicians will tell you that practice makes perfect, but now you understand the psychological process.
The reason I mention this is because too many people operate on “Autopilot” and we all suffer from it in some ways. People not thinking and reasoning out problems will resort to “Cut & Paste” solutions. It worked in the past so they do it by default. Bad drivers have taken a drink before driving and never had a problem until they had a collusion. Police arrest a suspect because he has tattoo’s or uses cannabis, there is a certain mindset or certain modus operandi because they do this every day and have over-learned the process. The problem is that many times they get it wrong. I was reading about a murder and 18 people were arrested and questioned. Obviously only 1 person committed the murder, but they arrested 17 innocent people to get their suspect. It also took 17 times longer to arrest that suspect and the process costs 17 times more than it should. If the process or the experiment is flawed to begin with, so will be the results.
Albert Einstein gave us a wonderful gift, he said; “to repeat the same experiment over and over again and expect different results every time, is Insanity”. Not following a scientific approach to everything we do is insanity. Turning Science into a Religion based on Faith and Belief is Insanity. Governments relying on unscientific Sociology to try to control society is Insanity. Courts using Clinical Psychologists instead of Forensic Psychologists is Insanity. Courts allowing untrained Doctors to express opinions on Forensic matters is Insanity. Social Workers claiming they can predict future risk of children, and then place these children at far higher risk is Insanity. The signs & symptoms of this insanity are easy to spot if you know what you are looking for. When people are so fixed in their beliefs or dogma that they wont be swayed by evidence, you are dealing with a form of Insanity. The term Cognitive Dissonance explains what is happening, but it doesn’t explain why or how to “cure” a person suffering from it.
Maybe it’s time we listened to Einstein?
I offer this recording without comment on the specific case.
This is a scene that plays out every day at “Contact” sessions between parents and children. I want you to understand the dynamics of what happens when a child is in State “Care”. This happens in every country where children are in “Care”. I hope this recording will give you some insight into why I do what I do.
Children usually show up at contact happy to see their parents. By the end of contact the children are crying. Each child says the same thing;
I want to go home.
In the mind of the child, they believe that the parent has a right to choose where the child lives. They don’t understand why their mother or father doesn’t come to the foster home and pick them up. They feel rejected. They feel that they are bad, that they did something wrong and this is why their parent doesn’t want them living with them. It’s virtually impossible for the child to rationalise what is happening to them other than in terms of that they are bad and did something wrong, that they cant live with the parents.
Obviously “Contact” is deeply traumatising to children in “Care”. It’s like handing a baby a wonderful toy and then taking it away. It’s no wonder these children suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder at twice the rate of troops returning from war zones, and at a severity 4 times more severe.
The social workers will justify this torture of children in terms that it’s not their decision, the Judge is the person responsible, but it would be exceedingly rare that a judge would go against the whims of social services. Bear in mind also that it was Social Services who took the case to the judge to prosecute in the first instance. The judges will tell you that they must go along with the “Experts”, as Social Services are there to “help” the child.
What typically happens next with contact is that Social Services decide that contact is too traumatising to the children, and they start cutting the frequency of contact until there is no contact. They will then have successfully have alienated the child from their parents and keep them until age 18 when they will be dumped on the streets. No matter what the parent does at contact, social workers will find a way to use it against the parent in court. They will say that on entering the room, the child shied away from the father as if they were afraid of them. I know of a case where a father took a mango to contact along with a potato peeler and a spoon for the child to eat, and in court the peeler became a knife which frightened the supervising staff.
As much as I would like to, I cant go into any specifics of this case. I have no doubt that when social services find this recording they will apply for a court order to have it removed. It doesn’t identify any child. The recording itself is in compliance with the law. Some people will no doubt have issues with the recording being played. The recording is very much a Crime Scene, a child is being tortured. Some will want this removed but I believe the Public’s right to know far outweights the States right to prevent the public from witnessing a child being tortured.
In the vast majority of these cases, the children find themselves in “Care” even though their parents are not accused of any crime or incapacity to care for and love their child. Most children are removed on the basis of “Risk of Future Emotional Abuse”, but if this recording doesn’t demonstrate actual abuse of children then I don’t know what does. I wish that the judge involved in this case was forced to attend a contact session. I wish that someone would play this on national or international television and radio. I wish that everyone reading this shared the recording for everyone to hear. I wish that everyone would listen to this child and that their wish to go home was fulfilled.
When are we going to start listening to these children?